Stopping overthinking saved my life

When my brain asked, “How will I cope?” I replaced it with “I am coping”. When I lay awake at night I reminded myself I was fine. When I thought about taking my own life I knew that tomorrow I would think about it less. Each day the light at the end of the tunnel got brighter.

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A sliding scale

We had a super evening last night at our positive living group. We even carried on the discussion into the car park when Starbucks said that they really had to close….

WHAT WE DID : The topic was ‘The Power of Interpretation’ by seeing things differently. Most of the time was spent in a light-hearted, supportive and friendly discussion. We looked at some of the things that had naffed people off last week and how to view them in a more positive and constructive light.

What we all love about these free flowing discussions is that we unearth lots of things that people want to change.

THE CHANGES WE MADE : Last night one woman banking sector worker realised that what she really wanted was a fitter, healthier body. Several people in the public and private sector discussed how to deal with difficult colleagues at work and another very personal challenge was how to deal with some very emotional times lately. One business owner is so proud to have started running and is loving it. This is what she said…

“My goal for the week is to carry on running – just been again this morning and ran for the longest distance yet without stopping.  Not sure how far it is, but it is the length of a field – like a par 5 golf hole!  I ran it both ways this morning – yay!

We are creating a really uplifting group of people and its really exciting watching it grow before our very eyes.

What we all agreed however is that there is a sliding scale of what people feel is bad and what people think is good. We all have things that press our buttons. It’s all about relativity. To someone a small argument with someone is the end of the world yet to others it’s just a small inconvenience.

Most of my life I used to stress about the smallest of things. I used to snap at people and think that the smallest difficulty was the end of the world. I used to think that people did things on purpose to upset me that the world was a difficult and stormy place.

That was until my baby died. That was the worst day of my life. Now each challenge I face is like a little step closer to where I want to be. Each hurdle I face is like a little drop in ocean, each twist and turn adds a story to tell my grandkids.  

If you are struggling to make sense of the world, search for someone who is worse off than you and just sit and watch and see how quickly it all jumps back into perspective.

NEXT WEEK – Positive living is all about dealing with STRESS…. that blooming horrible condition that blights us all at some point in our lives…

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